A rare conversation between Ramkrishna Paramahansa & Swami Vivekanand

Swami Vivekanand:- I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic.

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you free.

Swami Vivekanand:- Why has life become complicated now?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- Stop analyzing life.. It makes it complicated. Just live it.

Swami Vivekanand:- Why are we then constantly unhappy?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- Worrying has become your habit. That’s why you are not happy.

Swami Vivekanand:- Why do good people always suffer?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don’t suffer.
With that experience their life becomes better, not bitter.

Swami Vivekanand:- You mean to say such experience is useful?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.

Swami Vivekanand:- Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides the way.

Swami Vivekanand:- Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.

Swami Vivekanand:- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

Swami Vivekanand:- What surprises you about people?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- When they suffer they ask, “why me?” When they prosper, they never ask “Why me?”

Swami Vivekanand:- How can I get the best out of life?

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.

Swami Vivekanand:- One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

Ramkrishna Paramahansa:- There are no unanswered prayers. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Life is a mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

Getting and Staying Organized

Sometimes, getting organized is hard because it can seem like an overwhelming and daunting chore. Break the big job down into smaller tasks and get started! Even if you tackle just one a week, you’ll make progress. Being organized means you’ll save time on a daily basis just for yourself and can do things that you really enjoy.

The kitchen

While your kitchen cupboards might need organizing, focus first on the pantry. When the pantry is an absolute mess, it’s difficult to find what you need. For solution you can 1) Group Like Things Together and Label It. Grouping and labeling makes things easier to find. It also helps other people to find things you have organized.
2) Sort through all of the items and throw away anything that has expired.
3) Make sure the location, containers and drawers will keep your valuable stuff safe from the destroyers like dust and dirt, moisture, sunlight, and pests include insects and vermin. Something valuable stored poorly becomes junk overnight.

Kids room

If your kids are older, now is a good time to teach them about organizing their own lives! With your help, your kids can create a system for their toys and other prized possessions. However, if you have toddlers, preschoolers or young children, roll up your sleeves.
An easy and inexpensive way to organize your kid’s toys is to purchase clear bins to separate and store them by type or theme.

Your bathroom

Having your makeup and brushes organized can save valuable time off of your morning routine. You can purchase basic and inexpensive clear makeup containers and brush holders. Once you organize your makeup, keeping it that way isn’t hard. Find places in your drawers for your hair styling tools and products as well, and get in the habit of putting them back when you’re finished each day.

Your closet

Getting your closet organized is the key to saving time each morning. Take a day and organize your closet. First sort through and donate or resell clothes that don’t fit.
Next, divide your clothes by season and type — for example fall/winter and spring/summer. Within each of those categories, further separate by type of clothing — skirts, pants, short sleeves, long sleeves and dresses. If you’re particularly motivated, you can also sort by color. It could take an entire day to organize your closet, but you’ll save a lot of time each morning so it will pay off.

Put things in their right place

If you found golf balls in the kitchen junk drawer, put them with the golf clubs. If the hair dryer somehow ended up in the living room, make sure it finds its way back to the bathroom. When you have got stuff in your hand, recite “Don’t put it down, put it in its place” then everything would be so easy.

We are busy! Taking time away from our daily jobs, responsibilities and commitments to organize our homes is difficult, but the return is great.

 All the best….

Sources: Internet site “Nine secrets of successful organizers” and Book “The complete IDIOT’s guide to Organizing Your Life”

Self Purification

 Purification of the soul aims at clearing one’s heart of all kinds of negative sentiments, There is a very interesting story, which illustrates this point –

A milkman, deeply influenced by Gautama Buddha, requested Buddha to visit him and share with him nuggets of wisdom. In lieu of this, the milkman offered to present the seer with milk. Buddha agreed.

In the evening, when Buddha set out to visit the milkman, he took with him a container in which he intentionally put some mud. The milkman took the container but just as he was about to pour milk into it, realized that the container had some impurities in it.

The milkman washed the container clean. He then poured milk into it and gave it to Buddha. Picking up the container, Buddha got up to leave. Surprised, the milkman asked Buddha why he was leaving before imparting any wisdom. Buddha replied that he just had. Confused, the milkman urged Buddha to explain what he meant. Buddha told the milkman: “The mind is like the container. Thoughts that preoccupy us are like the impurities in the container. In order to gain wisdom, you must purify your mind by making it free of impure thoughts. Only when your mind is uncluttered, it will be able to receive wisdom.”

In a nutshell, what Gautama Buddha was trying to teach the milkman was that the mind needs to be prepared first – by cleansing it of impurities – so that it is fully prepared to receive wisdom.

Good Parenting

Hello Friends,

Parenting is not an easy task, I think we can make it little smoother by taking some positive steps and help ourselves to raise children who are responsible, honest and caring. I also have children,I want to share my knowledge about parenting which I get from various books and internet sites. I hope you will enjoy….

  •  Enjoy your children!                                

Childhood goes by faster than you think! Try to plan family time with your children. Family time does not mean an expensive outing. You can play with your children, take a walk in your neighborhood, read to them, cook with them—any time you spend with your children, it builds your relationship strong and is an opportunity to lay the important foundation of trust and love.

  • Way of tackling

Tackle your child by effective talking and you will see the magic, for example, When he/she misbehaved in front of guests, there are two ways of tackling :

1.Ineffective tackling – When you say “You were a bad boy, I will not be your Mammy anymore.”

2. Effective tackling – When you say “I am upset with the way you behaved.I am sure my good son will not repeat this again.”

“Children need love, especially when they do not deserve it.” Harold Hulbert

By effective tackling you can make the child feel secure in your unconditional love for him/her, so he can understand that it is the misbehavior that you unhappy with and that you will always love him.

  • Instill moral values

Preaching what is right has never worked – children will not understand why they are not being allowed to do what they want to do. They can be made to understand through role-plays and stories, where the central character benefits out of the desired behaviour. 

 So, stories can develop better understanding and compliance and through this we can instill moral values in our children very easily.

  • Keep patience 

As parents we know that children are sometimes noisy, messy, sometimes they are screaming, covered with mud and so on…these are very common things that children mostly do but the matter is that how should we handle such situations? 

Answer is, we should take it all in stride because we have 18 years to turn this small creatures into respectable grown-ups. So, we should keep patience. No rush to get them acting like adults – they will get there in good time. 

  • Communication 

Don’t be just a parent, be a friend of your child. Foster open communication. Listen to them. Encourage freedom of speech at home. Hold their hands when they needed because when they have trust on you they will share everything with you and it will help you to guide them in the right direction and it also make your relationship strong and loving.

  • Positive attitude 

A positive attitude is so important in a world increasing in negativity and despair. Having a positive attitude means that you focus on the good things in life and do not dwell on the negative.          

 But having a positive attitude isn’t something a child is born with. It is something that needs to be developed. As a parent we can help our children in developing positive attitudes about life that will help them as they face the challenges associated with growing up. 

For example if your child strikes out while playing baseball he may think, “I am so bad at baseball. I should just quit playing.” He needs to learn to replace that negative thinking with a positive attitude and thought like, “I may have struck out, but I will practice harder and next time I will do it.” 

Love is a powerful force and it gives children a feeling of self-worth. The more a child feels loved the less likely they are to allow negative thoughts and thinking into their life. Developing a positive attitude will help your child to have a successful and independent life. 

  • Pampering 

PARENTS today tend to lavish too much affection on their children. You may have heard about the little boy who felt sorry for the butterfly struggling to emerge from its cocoon. He decided to help so he could save the butterfly from the struggle. So he peeled the cocoon open for the butterfly. The little boy was so excited to watch the butterfly spread its wings and fly off into the sky. Then he was horrified as he watched the butterfly drift to the ground and die because it did not have the muscle strength to keep flying. 

Like the little boy, parents too often (in the name of love) want to protect their children from struggle. They don’t realize that their children need to struggle, to deal with disappointment, to solve their own problems, so they can develop their emotional muscles to develop skills and faith in themselves for the even bigger struggles they will encounter throughout their lives. 

It is not wrong to love children. But you (parents) should learn how to love them. Whenever the children go astray, willingly or unwillingly, parents should hasten to correct their faults and bring them to the right path. The obligations of parents do not end with providing food, schooling and luxuries but they need to spend quality time with their children, so they(parents) can share their experiences and knowledge with them and make them ready for facing outside world. 

  • Expectations 

These days parents expect too much from their children but every child is unique, they have their own point of views and feelings, we need to understand them. They are very innocent, our duty is only to guide them what is right and what is wrong instead of putting our liking and disliking on them. Children are God’s blessings for us, they are like flowers of our garden, let them blossom in their own way. 

  • Give yourself a break 

Be kind to yourself—you’re doing a good job! Being a parent can be challenging. No one is perfect and we learn as we go. Take the time to celebrate the great things you’ve done as a parent, and to anticipate the best from your children! 

Enjoy Childhood in all its vibrant colors. 

Good Luck.